Bonding: foundation of a happy life
We know that bonding is important. Everyone seeks connection: with parents, other family members, friends and partners. But there is something that precedes bonding, and that is bonding. In fact, bonding—the ability to connect and feel safe—is a prerequisite for bonding, a process that continues throughout childhood. Bonding is also: the combination of emotional openness and physical closeness to another. According to American psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Casriel (1924-1983), the founder of bonding psychotherapy, these are the primary necessities of life. For an infant, bonding is just as important as eating and drinking to stay alive. With a good, safe bond you can grow to mature autonomy. Secure bonding, then secure attachment, makes it easier to feel good around others and engage in intimacy.
Separation Anxiety and Commitment Anxiety
Unfortunately, the process of bonding and bonding does not run smoothly in everyone's life and that can have a major impact later in life. With an insecure bonding and attachment, people often either cling more and seek confirmation from others based on the idea that they cannot do it themselves, or they will reject others and start doing it all themselves.Separation Anxiety and Commitment Anxiety
Unfortunately, the process of bonding and bonding does not run smoothly in everyone's life and that can have a major impact later in life. With an insecure bonding and attachment, people often either cling more and seek confirmation from others based on the idea that they cannot do it themselves, or they will reject others and start doing it all themselves.
At body level
About a third of the Dutch population is not securely attached, in severe and less severe variants. Various problems arise as a result of people trying to compensate for the lack of bonding: for example, excessive drug, alcohol or drug use. Or gambling, sex addiction, working too hard, tension complaints, eating disorders or psychosomatic complaints.
Bonding psychotherapy can help you develop a more satisfying relationship with yourself and others. If emotional openness, equality and taking good care of yourself is difficult for you, there is a chance that stressful experiences from your past are preventing you from living your life full and with pleasure.
What is characteristic of bonding psychotherapy?
You get to know your emotions, so also the depth of your emotions. You learn to feel, express and articulate them.
In addition, contact with yourself, your inner world, and with the other is of great importance. The beliefs from the past that allowed you to survive can be transformed into beliefs that are helpful and supportive in the present. With the deep work that is done in the bonding, there is room for the experience of enjoyment and pleasure. These are embodied experiences because Bonding psychotherapy works in a body-oriented and experiential way.
Want to know more?
Read A scream away from Happiness by Daniel Casriel
Also read the article in Happinez about bonding therapy
We are honored that Marcella Tam and Ellen van de Burg will provide a monthly 1-day group workshop emotional bodywork in De Yoga Studio.
Beforehand you can participate in an introductory workshop to see if it suits you.
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